Hi PetitBateau

I am so sorry for your pain and having to grow up too fast. I send you a hug. Try and remember to pay attention to your life and your future if possible. You have a wonderful life full of love coming just for you.

My family has had the a similar experience to you except it was my husband who kept cheating and lying. He had such strange behavior and got aggressive and made everything in to a drama too. My daughters caught him boating with his girlfriend, he said they were seeing things. They cracked his code on his phone, he said he was trying to be polite and discourage the lady he was texting messages to about how he didn't know how to please her. He said it was his friend's girlfriend who left her bra in the car when he went on a business trip to Seattle. Their Dad denied everything and still does even after he moved out, and our relationship has ended. I confronted him constantly too.

He is still my girls Dad and loves to take care of them. He tries to take care of me as much as he can. He and I work well together talking about the children and about money. I guess I tell my girls that there is a clear choice for them - they can be angry or they can leave the strange behavior to their Dad and Mom and get on with their lives. If they look at the whole picture, their Dad cheating is only a small part of him. I don't think anyone could have kept him and I together - I think he just wasn't strong enough to face life and needed to act like a teenager with the drama and romance and secrets.

He left me because he said I was mean to him. I have stopped being part of the drama and don't argue anymore. It is nice. Do you have an aunt you can stay with for a while, someone to cook for you, take you shopping and hug you? You sound like a strong beautiful girl. Maybe one day, you can see your Mom isn't so strong and look for her good points. Don't let her drama become part of your life. Your Dad is an adult too. It is his job to figure out what to do and hopefully to help you too.