Not sure this belongs here, but it's something I'm talking about in therapy, so thought it might fit in here...

I am perfectly fine with emotional intimacy. Yet I can't seem to make room for both emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. Still trying to unravel the knots on this issue....but thought I'd get your thoughts on this in the meantime. Anyone else struggle with this?

Me thinks it's cuz ex-husb withheld physical affection. It was either sexual contact or none at all. All contact was sexualized. There was no physical contact for the sake of a hug or a cuddle, just for the sake of physical contact.

I've never had the experience of an emotionally intimate relationship coupled with physical affection. Me wonders whether that is the reason or one of the reasons me is having a hard time reconciling the two. It's like I can allow for emotional intimacy. I can allow for sexual intimacy (me thinks so anyway). But me cannot allow for both of them from the same person. (Have never engaged in sexual contact with anyone but ex-husb)

My married friends have good sex lives. They don't get my dilemma. I won't be seeing t for a while. Anyone here have any thoughts on the matter?

Me does think also that a small little incident (see my post in 'survivors of abuse' forum...warning: may be triggering)
may be a piece of this puzzle.

Me wonders. Me is trying to make sense out of my un-desire to be with a man, when all my friends have a natural attraction to be with one.