Hello insertname: I'm sorry this Thread has not received any previous replies. Longer posts tend not to receive as much attention as shorter ones. (I know because I've written some longer ones!) I don't know the answer to your question. I can relate, somewhat to what you wrote, though. I am also pretty anger-aversive. However I'm an older person &, at this point in my life, my answer to this, as well as to a number of other considerations in my life, is to simply keep to myself as much as possible. My best wishes to you.