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Originally Posted by Flyer
Disability payments can be a choice. If you do not qualify for SSDI, you may be eligible for what they used to call Title 19. I may be wrong on the name, but generally funded through the state from where I was. Similar to Medicare vs. Medicaid. You can ask at your local welfare office.
If you don't want to apply but work, that's okay too, if it doesn't compromise yourself, employer or work site.
I kept working as long as I could. It got me out of the house, paid well, and was my extended family. I did not realize that it also served as therapy, until I had been off for a while.
Disability is not all that it seems cracked up to be, but in some cases, as in mine, it was needed. My place of work had become unhealthy for me. As said, it doesn't have to be long term.
I don't understand the statement about parenting.
I would not appreciate the advice to "be real" coming from a pdoc and would ask for direction in how he might think I could improve.
Are you in therapy?
Best wishes.
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I had two children when I had that conversation with him. He had known me, been my doctor on and off since I was 15. He was offering his opinion which was basically that it's hard enough having children in our society and when you throw in a severe illness and the extreme instability I have had in periods of my lifetime, it is much harder. Thus he told me to "be real" about it. I accidentally became pregnant with my third child just a couple weeks after that conversation. I was very taken aback by the conversation at first but after discussing it with my husband we felt that he was just looking out for my best interest. It was that conversation that had the greatest impact on me getting my tubes tied. I actually regret it sometimes; we probably would've had a larger family.
It was the right decision though.
I'm not in therapy. I was in therapy, but now We can't afford it.