Isolation in my life comes and goes in phases. But I can really enjoy my time alone. It's almost like a time to replenish for me. I like my solitude. I like how uncomplicated and simple it is.
It gives me time to look inside myself and see what needs to be worked on and improved. It gives me time of stillness. I get to 'regroup'-I look at past social mistakes and I ask how and why it went wrong and how can I improve myself so that the next time I won't make the same mistakes.
You're no less of a person because you don't go out Kayacking. That's her life, what she enjoys. It doesn't have to be who you are. What do you like? Don't try to be impressive-just be honest with yourself. What I want to do is very simple-I like being outdoors, not hiking, not rock climbing, not doing anything special except laying on a blanket in the grass, reading a book. It's very simple but for me-it's pleasurable. No bickering or fighting or hearing "I'm hungry" or putting up with somebody's moods who won't say that there is anything wrong but with the way they act, you know there is but they're too "nice" to discuss it-instead they'll just use passive aggression on you...
GRRR
When I want to deal with that b.s.-all I have to do is look up a class I'd be interested in taking and I can participate in all that great social interaction. Yippeee!!! And you could too, if you REALLY wanted to- you would. But if you're happy about being alone and just feeling guilty 'cause you think you "should" be out doing this and that 'cause this and that person is-forget it-you're doing fine, Tranquility-many of people have had worthy lives living in solitude. What you do in your solitude is what determines whether or not you're happy. Don't feel bad if you enjoy being a loner. If not, then what's stopping you? I mean, what's REALLY stopping you and what can you do about it or better yet-what ARE you willing to do about it? When you stop getting something out of it, you'll change. Okay? You can change your circumstance.
(((((((((Tranquility))))))))))))))