gosh, i wouldnt want to live there either. sounds horrible. i havent even had to think about any of those things thank goodness. have you thought about moving? my city was voted one of the top 10 capitals in the us or top 20 cities. i dont know, i dont pay attention. it made a top list at the end of last year. but the schools suck and the mental health system sucks, etc, etc. but i dont enjoy any of it either because i sit here in front of my computer too. agoraphobia doesnt let me go outside. i hope things get better for you. i know it may not help, but there is light at the end of that tunnel. i found it after 30 years.