I don't know how to tell my (DBT) T I fantasize about older women, like sort of being kept and possessed romantically by an older woman who treated me sorta like a child. I think it's hard because my T is an older woman.... sigh. Also she is straight and I'm male. We have both said that we care about each other but that is it. I don't have much fantasies about her specifically at his point bc it's not happening but this is something I've never empathized with about myself and I really want to be heard and somehow I feel like having her acceptance specifically on this would be a huge relief.

I also have not told her I'm Bi and I have not really come to terms with it either, she just assumes I am gay and I am in a relationship w/ a man right now but it's not going well

I keep feeling like she'll judge me or it will change how she thinks of me and it will get extremely awkward. ;_; I don't want to make our work anymore awkward. Sometimes she drops the ball when I'm talking abt my feelings and she doesn't know what I want to hear. But I do need her. And I feel like I still am not 100% open with her and it's hurting my faith in the work. How can I manage to tell her about this?? Help?