Jane, well done on checking in with T. Now you know you can vent, but that doesn't mean you have to so there's no pressure to do it or not do it. It just means the opportunity is there to do it if at some point(s) over the week it feels helpful.

Perhaps start an email, save it as a draft and then put stuff in it as it comes up. It doesn't have to have any kind of structure or theme. And you don't have to decide now when to send it, or even if you'll send it. It's simply about knowing you have somewhere to put some of the thoughts and feelings.

Sending hugs and support your way.