I completely understand...
At first and in certain cases I used to be 'glad' for the judgemental things my T said, because I felt them, but I couldn't express them. I try not to say anything bad about someone else, even when I know they treat me very badly.

But other times it does bother me too. I think it is because my T sees things I'm not ready to see yet (or at least, that's what I hope). It feels though as if I don't agree and therefor it sometimes really bothers me when she does it.

It's quite complicated. My T often tells me she does say 'the truth' because I need to see it (urgently). And yes, it could help... probably. But it stays a very difficult issue. If your T goes too far while you're not ready or you absolutely don't agree, I'm afraid it could damage the relationship too.

It would definitely be a good thing to talk about it. I'm still trying to bring it up in a session too. I know I won't change my T, but we could at least discover where my reaction comes from, if necessary.

How do you actually react when your T says things like that?