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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
I'm still trying to understand why I found my therapy (which I have not quite quit yet) so hard.
She gave some really quite profound insights to me, and at the time it felt ok, but afterwoods I could feel somehow violated or shattered. Does anyone relate to what I am saying? I feel like she did it all too soon, I think she should have let the relationship develop so we had a stable base before this. I'm not even sure if I want the insights from her, perhaps she could leave me to figure these things out myself?
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I do understand what you are saying, Brown Owl. Being seen so deeply is very hard and painful. It can be enlightening and wonderful too, but in our quietest and most painful moments it can be extremely hard.
I agree with Mouse that it takes a lot of courage, but I also believe that to get to that point of being able to tolerate the level of vulnerability needed in analysis, you need to work with a therapist for a while; you have to relax into the relationship and allow your defenses to lower at a rate you feel comfortable. I do believe, in this rush and hurry up and get through this world, some therapists move too quickly. It doesn't have to terribly wound their clients with the rush to "heal" but every person is an individual and the rate they get to that place of safe vulnerability and openness is different for each person. I think you are courageous and open to analysis, but maybe you need to pull back a little and let your therapist know how painful the process is for you right now and you need to slow down a bit. Even talking about slowing down and quitting is a great topic in psychoanalysis!
