So, its like a classroom and I'm in 'Stage 1': I must learn skills to downregulate the intensity of my emotions.

Except most of my emotions now are caused by a discrete life problem that needs solving. And I already made myself 90% calmer and self-control self-controlled prior to the DBT sessions.

I've done psychodynamic previously and loved it, I got to choose what to speak about, gained new insight. I was seen, heard, understood and accepted. I was ok as I was, yet I improved so much.

Here in DBT I can't speak about problems freely, nor emotions. The sessions itself are invalidating: what I feel, anger and sadness, are not ok - they must be changed and modified.

Well, let's stop a minute and see if I have a reason for feeling so maybe, please?

So: is this a fault of my therapist, the method or me?

(No self harm or aggressive or suicidal behavior. Only anger and sadness caused by a deep betrayal and hurtful behavior objectively caused by someone else)