Just got the phone call that he is off to "Beers and Pool" with his new mates...both male and female. He asked if that was Ok and told him how I feel..."i feel that his pasona changes when he is with that crowd and that I think that i didn't feel comfortable with him going'.

He got very very angry, I told him that he is changing ie looking up girlie pic and speaking about women in a manner that I don't feel comfortable with. He got very very very angry and told me that I don't trust him and that I make his life difficult. I spoke calrmly and continued to get angry and say hurtful things. I then said if you want my wishes to go then go. He said I will and hung up.

I am now taking lots and lots of big breaths.......while my head is spinning. Should I be concerned that he is spending time with people that see women only as sex objects or should I show a bit of faith in him.

My may concern was this is how his second marriage ended. He would spend hours at the casino talking, flirting and bedding other women while his wife was at home with the children. How do I know if he has learnt his lesson...?

Does a leopard never change their spots...?
Does it mean anything that I have told him how I feel yet he is still desparate to go out for beers and pool.

Some responses PLEASE