My wife and I have been separated for almost a year after her numerous affairs. She was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorder.
She had told me in the past that she was addicted to pills after some guy she messed around with got her her talked into stealing pills from her job.she is a nurse and was until recently the director of nursing at her job but got fired.she won't tell me why but I got a phone call saying that meds were missing and they told her to take a drug test and she refused.she is now a nurse somewhere else.
So here's the problem. We had actually agreed to talk about things and to get help with everything but when the time we agreed upon to meet she cancelled. Since then I have met a wonderful woman who I don't have to worry about not trusting like I didn't trust my wife.now she is trying to make me feel guilty for moving on with someone else. We have 2 children together 1 day we can get along fine the next we are fighting really bad.i have a feeling that with the way her moods are that she is using something and I really want our kids around her since I don't know if she is using or not.im in the process of filling for divorce and really can't afford a lawyer to fight to get custody of my girls but I need to know if there is any way to have to make her do a drug test to prove she's not on drugs?
This whole thing has been very painful to my girls and I watching her spiral out of control. She lies about everything and I have my girls alot more than she does.we were together for 15 years and I really dont know what happened but I know it's time move on.any advice would be appreciated