An official diagnosis could be good in this matter. I will not say he does not have AS, he might, but recently I see A LOT of posts about how someone is mean and has bad behavior so they must have AS...

I have AS, not in a relationship but I have a BFF. I see no point being mean to her, yell or put her down. I can't see why I would do that, she is my friend!!!

But there has been times in my life when I have had much less patience, when I had high stress levels, high anxiety and a lot of depression. Then I might not always been nice, but who is, under a lot of pressure?

I have learned a few things about myself; Not promise to do things I might not be able to do (despite people's nagging), my life is full of "maybes" because if I have a bad day and I promised to do a lot I will implode, also I have learned to choose what parts of my life I control (my friends KNOW what of my stuff they cannot touch and change around and I have learned to let go of the rest), I have learned to be verbally positive about other people's successes big and small (instead of assuming the know I am proud) and the most important for me, I have made others understand I need own time EVERY DAY.

Another thing I have made myself understand, is that if people look down on me just because of my diagnoses, eff them, I'm a person just like them!!!

We cannot change, but we can work differently with what we have.