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Originally Posted by Cynefrid
"It's hard for me to say this because you're great in many ways.. Also you hurt me sometimes when I perceive you as judgemental of my family, and I wonder why you do that" --- see what happens then....
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This is good. To my mind, parents are judgmental and want to silence us; not ts. So if we perceive our ts acting that way, that is the time for us NOT to be silent. We can finally confront the judgmental parent "figure" in a safe environment. If we sit silently and refuse to engage with the t because we dont like what they say, then we are behaving with the t the way we behave with our parents.
It IS scary to speak up, but if we dont, we will never get what we want out of life. I got my t schedule adjusted this month because i spoke up. This is the first time ive done it without whining!