@-jimi- Exactly! I feel the same way. I want to figure out what it is and maybe help change the medical community so that this will no longer be a problem.

I've been looking into personality theories for the last several years and have found a lot of helpful answers. It's unsettling though, because it took me several years to figure out what types I was in all these various batteries, and in all the dichotomies I only have slight preferences for the most part... That's why I think there's probably some sort of identity disorder that people know very little about or at least aren't widely discussing.

Have you taken a Myers-Briggs test? It could be related to personality. I'd be really interested in knowing your results, since you sound quite a bit like me. I'm an INFJ and they have an apparent ability to blend into their surroundings and lose touch with their subjective identities quite frequently, as they generally are able to blend into their surroundings quite well. Here's a description that you might relate to: INFJ | arendeepsyche.com

The thing is, I've learned all I can really learn about personalities and egos, and it still feels like there's something a little bit off with my own self-perception. That's why I'd like to figure out what's going on and how to possibly better the counseling/psychiatric community.