Sometimes I can find the right words or have well thought out "vents" - it's is ok.

It at least gets you talking about it...

Sounds like you recently had an issue with the Aunt - scolding...that's not very nice.

Are you talking to a T? If you feel your family is toxic, probably time to take a break. During this time you can set some ground rules for yourself as at what point you may want to end a conversation. Example: If my "Blank" says this, I will say "Blank".

Hope this helps a little...