I have a female relative who I believe to be aspergers.
It can be much harder to diagnose in females, they are just 'different' slightly 'out there' maybe.
My relative is attractive, holds down a job but sometimes she says odd things, puzzling things that dont quite fit. She's likeable enough.
She is married and has a son and daughter. The son is aspies definitely. He is obsessed with snakes. He doesn't do small talk.
Males with aspies often do not get diagnosed, females very rarely. People sense they are slightly different but cant put their finger on why.