I have taken the gamble about 25 times and have come out on the bad end about 23 times. You're right...those aren't good odds.

I have increased my expectations of how the therapist behaves: appears to be sincere, genuine, competent, caring, believes in "doing no harm," hasn't been arrested, not likely to be arrested. (Sad I have to add those last two.)

But I have lowered my expectations of what we might accomplish. I don't expect to "finish" therapy. I don't expect to be cured. I just hope to deal with issues in a more healthful manner. If we do better than that, I'll be surprised.