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tranquility said:
Hi there,

I'm a big isolator which is funny because I can also talk easily with people.

I am so depressed that I am lonely, yet I stay home and don't go out, so how can I expect to meet people???? I intellectually know what I have to do, but doing it is an entirely different thing.

I guess what makes it harder is that I do have physical limitations so there are alot of things I can't do, but I've got to find things that I can do.

What are others thoughts on their isolation??? How do you get out of it?

Tranquility

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Tranquility, I am so much like you that it is like looking in a mirror to read your post. The only difference is that I am very comfortable being alone. On the other hand, I know that all research shows that people with nurturing relationships are happier and live longer lives. When I am asked to fill out who to contact in case of an emergency, I don't even have anyone to put in the that blank. I just lie and fll in a name and that person is probably going to be shocked if contacted in an emergency.

I know that I need to go out; I have physical limitations; I was quite a babe when I was young so I feel old, ugly, out of date; I have lost my remaining few friends from the old days in the past few years and can't seem to get and keep a job, so I feel very seriously flawed.

I do not get anything out of volunteering, despite the popular wisdom that I'm supposed to feel satisfied and gratified by this. Well, I don't. Mostly, I feel used.

I apologize, Tranquility, if I've written so much that I'm hijacking. I am in the same boat, same boat.