My t says he has heard there is a lot of anti-t sentiment on this site. Well, the ts dont do "the work"; they dont have to change; we do, presuming we go to them because we are unhappy.

My t told me YEARS ago to block a certain person from calling me. My old phone wouldnt allow me to. My new phone, now two years old, does. I finally took his advice on this, maybe six months ago? I told him this week that i wished i had followed his advice a lot sooner, it has changed my life. Should i now blame him for not insisting, for not convincing me? Did i give him power by admitting that, oh no!! Thats what some of the anti-t rants here sound like to me. Its not a partnership, its a tug-o-war. Working with a t should be a partnership. You are there to figure out why it is so hard to trust them, but the specific t usually is not the problem - they are generic placeholders for our transferential blamings.