It sounds like you have good sense of what you want and what you don't feel is helpful. Some in this field say that getting to the subjective truth, which is exactly what you are getting at by saying "my way of seeing my life," is the most important thing. Or crucial. That is not achieved by imposing an interpretation from another point of view. It happens through empathy, meaning "vicarious introspection," being able to understand and even think by trying to meet the other person's situation as it is. People respond to true empathy, true understanding, and feel matched and attuned to. This then has broader effects. In particular schools, there is a sense that the analyst and patient come together in what they call "relationality" or "relational regulation" or "relational mind." This is not about insights given from a distance. This is about getting involved actively in the process of being with another person in their own subjective truth and complexity. Your job at first is to know your own truth and self. Later perhaps knowing things more interpersonally. But the first project of knowing yourself is interpersonal in therapy.