I am a person that tends to keep friends for a long time or I do not close a friendship formally really...at least not on difficult terms. I am in the process of trying to close a friendship that has been important to me over several years. I feel that we have become too connected and have reached a time that we are now disconnected and it is not healable. (This is an IM relationship over about 4 years.) I also have come to know that therapeutically it might help me move forward to disconnect. with this person. I do not see a way to reconnect at this time and it is difficult and I think I am mourning.

Can others speak to this and also I wonder how often people feel they need to let go of others to make progress in their therapy...or in their lives? I feel like I am beginning to disconnect in many ways about in my life and this makes me uncomfortable. I do not know if this is so that I can connect more in my therapy and put the pieces back together or what is going on but I kinda feel rather lost... not grounded.

Therapy tomorow after missing a week.... (disclaimer..lol)

Hope this makes sense.