SecretGarden, I think it's wonderful that you are trying to "formally" close the relationship. Normally I just let things end on their own, don't write as often or whatever. I think all relationships go through ups and downs, just like our lives and sometimes a certain relationship may not be what we need for ourselves at a certain time in our life? If you are working on other things and don't have time, you don't have time! There's nothing "bad" about that, you are just in a different place in your life than you were before. I don't think the crabs and fish get annoyed or unhappy with the sea at low tide when they're left high and dry? :-) That's just the way thing play out, the "normal" ebb and flow.