Thanks to all of you
gg, I learnt this from parents and peers..... maybe from "au pairs" too (had a string of those .... some were "not nice"

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"he/she is a moron" is/was one of my father's favourite expressions......
"it's not really us saying it"..... exactly

So why does it hurt so much (rhetorical question)
Thanks for saying I'm smarter than the average bear
And thanks again to all xo
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Fuzzy