I liked my Pdoc pretty much from the start, he felt approachable, like it would be easy to talk to him. Unfortunately that wasn't enough for me to just start therapy and have it all going swimmingly in a few weeks, because I also had major trust issues from being abused by a previous Psychiatrist. I could tell my Pdoc was a good T, and I knew deep down that if I could just trust him and let a therapeutic bond form between us that we could do some great work together. I just couldn't though, not right away - I wanted to connect with him, but my past experience kept getting in the way. He persisted though, gently, he didn't try and force anything with me in terms of trust back then. It was like he was just *there*, every session, being totally empathic in an appropriate and balanced manner (not swinging from one extreme to the other with being overly attached or connected one minute, and then distancing himself the next), and I gradually started to feel a sense of stability and security and reliability from him. He certainly wasn't perfect every step of the way, he made some mistakes, he owned them, he apologised and explained himself to me, we talked through how I felt, and so on - one thing that really helped me trust him is that he always told me to never just sit there not saying anything if he was observing or telling me something I didn't agree with, I am always encouraged to challenge and question him at any time and it is not a problem. It did take me at least 2 years to fully trust him, I mean 100%, not a shadow of a doubt, absolute implicit trust. Since then we've made a really strong connection and we do have a really strong therapeutic bond between us, but at the same time it's still structured, there's no confusion of roles (he's always my Pdoc, I am his patient), no confusing or uncertain issues with boundaries. It just feels really healthy and safe and balanced, and I've never really had that, not to this degree at least, with any other Pdoc or T.

Have you tried speaking to your T about how you're feeling with Therapy? If their response throws up red flags or doesn't sit well with you in some way then it might be a sign that they're just not the right T for you - but then again maybe you could get some answers and explanations, as well as awareness, from your T and that could be used to improve therapy for you. Really, I'd just talk to them, let them know what's going on in your head and how you feel you're responding to therapy right now.

Good luck.