I would like my T to hold my hand too. I haven't discussed it and I'm sure she would say no, to which I will say - 'you cannot know for sure that to hold my hand would not be a good thing, you believe some theory that it would not be good, but I believe that me asking this from you and wishing to have it is a huge positive step for someone who has been emotionally independent all her life, and that you doing it would help me.'