Thanks for sharing your story Rhapsody. I hope it helps you to know that you are not alone.

My husband and I are in a similar situation. Except that in our case, it's me who can't ever seem to get horny or in the mood, and I end up feeling guilty for rejecting hubby's many sexual advances.

I think pretty much all men (and probably most women) like porn. Regardless of their relationship status, everyone loves watching other people having sex. I think it's just hardwired into our brains.

That being said, I understand the frustration/anxiety with having the spouse be waaaay into porn. My husband used to have his computer desktop on a rotating slide show of all kinds of porn pictures he'd accumulated over time. When I told him that this bothers me, and makes me feel like I'm under pressure (as if sex is constantly on his mind and in demand) he did change the desktop background.

Maybe you both need to set up "alone time" during which he's allowed to check out his porn free of interruptions, and you're free to do whatever you want.

I hope this helps. Hugs.