Dear Ab,
it's hard to know what your Aunt meant, unless you decide to ask her to clarify...but no matter what she meant, you dont' need to agree with her to be where you're at.

Maybe your Aunt is processing her feelings on some level or maybe she's not, and I hope she was expressing her love and concern, and maybe trying to understand you a bit better.

Depression can do that, black and white. It can burn out those who care for us, and it can be very intense. I think the thing to work towards is a balance of things. Process emotions but not at the exclusion of other living.

maybe she's just reacting to your intensity? Is she safe for you to ask her what she meant?