Hi Sirensong, well it sounds like it's got to be a lot easier for him to try setting the schedule his libido runs on to another time............and maybe if you could talk to him about doing more "unexpected" things (like the picking you up, like the washing the dishes, and cleaning......) more often?? Maybe those things could help just a little??
And while it is great if you can talk to him about your depression, sometimes the practical help/support can make a real difference too, so if he could do some more of that......??
And some more help with the depression.........there will be some newer antidepressants out there now so maybe some newer/different ones may help more than the one's you've tried in the past?? And maybe you could find a T who works on a sliding scale (payment related) for you??
But some really understanding/supportive people on this forum if you want to keep posting.........but good luck on the Sexual issues forum too!!!
Alison