Brown Owl, you might try reading: Jon Allen PhD Restoring Mentalizing in Attachment Relationships: Treating Trauma with Plain Old Therapy. He talks a lot about he learned that putting the "brilliant interpretations" on the back shelf and concentrating on deeply listening to clients is the road to healing. It's a great book and probably describing exactly what you are looking for in therapy. He does relational psychoanalysis and has incorporated a lot of the mentalizing techinques developed by UK's Fonagy and Batemen's Mentalizing Therapy. Very readable book and something you could suggest to your therapist.