Hi Ab,
She may have said the thing about not having to process your feelings sympathetically, Ab. She may mean well. And people of faith deal with problems differently then we who are not so faithful? My sister and brother are like that-you mention any problem, no matter what- and suddenly Jehovah will make His Holy appearance and promise to deliver me if only I BELIEVED. Ug! It can be a little frustrating. Anyway, off topic...

If you haven't had much sleep in the last three days then you're probably feeling really funked out and anything anyone says could be taken the wrong way by you at this point. You seem to be holding on to everything she's said that has hurt you. I don't think you're being fair to her. Especially if she is the one person you can confide in. Cut her some slack and try to give her the benefit of the doubt. Be grateful for all the time she's invested in listening to you when you needed to talk-don't use anything she said against her because it's not what you wanted to hear.
I think you may see things differently after you've gotten some sleep. Talk to your aunt about the comment she made about the processing your feelings and when she commented on how she thought you felt with your head. Don't hold grudges on her that she doesn't know about. Give her a chance to explain herself-she's given you that much now you can do the same for her.
(((((((((Ab and Aunt))))))))))))))
You're very lucky to have someone with whom you can confide in. Don't take her for granted. Maybe she needs to be listened to now.