I was a victim of a 13th-stepper, though it didn't hurt me all that much. I didn't have much feeling for him and I broke it off after a month at the recommendation of my sponsor.

There are a lot of things about AA that annoy me but I keep going because if I stop, then eventually I will end up drinking again and that would be worse than anything I experience at AA.

In any group, you will find good people and bad people. Predators are everywhere, they are in your neighborhood, in your church, at your job, walking down the street. You have to get smart and learn what the red flags are, listen to your gut, and make boundaries. And it's nearly impossible to do that if you are drinking or using.

So - AA is not perfect but it's helping me to stay sober, and introduced me to some really good people - those are the people I choose to focus on, not the bad ones.