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Is there anyone else in our lives we think of and miss this much? I have never felt this way for any other person now or in the past. I am grateful to be able to feel this kind of love and attachment, because I thought I was not capable, but at the same time it is very painful because it can't be for a lifetime. It is very conditional, with rules and boundaries and one sided. I live in fear of losing it at any moment. If I knew he could be my mentor for life I could soar to new heights and takes risks that are needed to fulfill a dream.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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