Hello TrixE, welcome to Psych Central.
It depends how many moderators are on as they volunteer for the role, they get to each one as quickly as they can. It is only your first 5 or so posts that are moderated but after that you will be able to post freely and use chat. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time, hang in there, you'll be able to post away real soon.
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