i have both, me hurting someone or someone hurting me. i was assaulted by an ex boyfriend and i think that has alot to do with it. sometimes i think to harm someone else but it is just a thought and im working with my t to get rid of these thoughts. my doc told me many people have this problem, but i never heard of it until i started posting here, which gave me relief to think i'm not the only one with this problem.