Let me get this straight - you ask for an opinion - but when you get one, you say you don't care...

So you're just talking for the sake of it?

I think if you give people the benefit of the doubt, say, well, they didn't intend it to be so bad, you're setting yourself up for abuse.

In addition, if you are horrible to someone, and say, that wasn't my intention, then you're making an excuse for your behavior in order to not take responsibility for the hurt you did.

Remember, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." Don't be blinded by "intentions." Instead, do what you mean, say what you mean, and that's what will make you a better person.