Zen, trust and disclosure are biggies with me, too. From a rather young age -- meaning by my early 20s -- I realized that I should never, ever disclose something if I really didn't want that person to tell a single other person. Because everyone tells someone -- a bf, gf, special friend, etc. And the pebble's circles in the water keep getting bigger and eventually one of those waves hits me.

As well, I was in newspaper, so I learned early the value of keeping my trap shut.

I also feel that our society has gone way overboard in thinking that we are supposed to disclose information. Why do you need my zip code if I am purchasing with cash? One time, when I refused to disclose my name for a cash sale, my now X, just write down that she's Mrs. John Gotti. OK, this cultural reference may be dated for some of you, as he's dead, but he was a big mafia don always in the news at the time.

I know that's not the kind of disclosure you mean, Zen, but it all kind of ties to together for me. If I resent giving my zip code, how the heck am I ever going to trust anyone with the big stuff.

On the other hand, there are plenty of time when I say what's on my mind because I figure life turns out crappy no matter how hard I try to fit in and present myself correctly.

Trust and disclosure are overwhelming and baffling for me.