I don't think they're flipping out because you talked about BDSM. I think the concern is that you're saying you're into BDSM and want to be dehumanized, and what is underlying it is likely trauma. People on this forum want to help, but they (and I) feel as though we keep suggesting that you see a T because we see a desperate need for it, and it gets ignored. It's hard to see you come on here upset and drunk, knowing that you need the support of a properly trained T (in ADDITION to LC) but that you aren't going to get that support.

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