Ididitmyway, interesting view. I guess I would see hand holding as less invasive, if that's the word I'm looking for, than a hug, where bodies could potentially be pressed up against each other. So I would hope a T who wouldn't hold a person's hand wouldn't hug, either. I never felt the urge to hold my T's hand, therefore have never tried, but there was one time I was upset and fighting it, and she was sitting next to me, and I grabbed her arm and held it. I didn't pre-think it, I didn't realize I even did it until after I had her arm in my grasp... some days I tend to work pretty hard to fight my emotions....but, in the end, it doesn't usually work.