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Originally Posted by doyoutrustme
If someone says they were abused, they were.
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Not necessarily. I had a psychotherapist tell me I was sexually abused but it never ever happened. She concluded this because I had no interest in sexual relationships and didn't like being touched. This was very confusing and made me doubt my family and upbringing. Apologizing to my parents hasn't relieved my remorse. I regret believing that psychotherapist. She messed me up. This experience was traumatic. At the time I was 16 and having social difficulties due to undiagnosed ASD.
Parents can harm their children without abusing them. Good intentions or ones without deliberate harm can leave scars. I'm proof. My mother tried to get me to socialize with other children and failed to deal with the severe bullying I was subjected to on a daily basis until it became a crisis. My father actually dealt with it. I internalized all this and blamed myself for it because I had no idea why I had so much social difficulties. Eventually I started to believe mother disliked me and wanted me to suffer. If we knew about my ASD back then things would have been different.
My parents didn't mistreat me. They just didn't understand the extent of my social difficulties. I cannot accuse them of abuse because that isn't what it was. They weren't deliberately trying to hurt and break me.
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Dx: Didgee Disorder
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