I don't know if this is helpful....but, as a mother of three, as a parent, I know there are times when my kids batter against me, and take out stuff on me that life has dealt them. I'm their mum, that's my job, and it's okay. My kids can be so unfair, rude, aggressive, they can throw all the anger and frustration at me and their dad cos they can't deal with it at source. They can be funny, gorgeous, amazing, loving...it's a real mixed bag being a parent. It's what we sign up for (or should, anyway). I know that, if I were ill and my kids were angry at me, it would be okay, I would understand, and I hope that they would know that I would always forgive them for this, and always hold them in my hearts, even when I can also call them every name under the sun. I would not want them to feel guilty or bad for allowing me to be their parent, and be their rock when they needed it.