I've been trying to figure out why, for some of us, attachment with our t, and the subject of touch, is such a problematic issue. I thought of something that I think might explain it a bit.

If a person grows up with a decent, reasonable amount of food to eat, they come to view eating as normal. So as an adult, if someone offers them a piece of cake, or a steak, they can enjoy it well, but it doesn't take on undue significance of them.

However, if somebody grew up with very little food to eat, it may dominate their thoughts, even as an adult. They may worry about getting enough. Now if somebody offers them a piece of cake, or a steak, it feels huge and significant. It feels wonderful, soooo good! The erson went so long without eating much, it fills a big need. And they crave it so much, it is hard to keep it in balanced perspective.

Maybe it's like that for people with attachment issues. What do you think?