If Growli says she isn't ready to deal with it, then she isn't ready. You can't FORCE someone to deal with anything in their past that they aren't ready to deal with. If she says she is here looking for support, than that is what she currently needs. Why is that so hard for people to accept? A lot of people on here are older than Growli (oftentimes much older than Growli) and are only starting to process their trauma now...they certainly didn't deal with it when they were 21. Telling someone over and over again what to do has no cumulative effect whatsoever; Growli will get a T when she is ready.