I don't really have any insight for you, i just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. When I was reading, I felt like I was reading about me! 1st, 2nd, even 3rd dates! then I freak out and run.. i don't really know where it comes from. Ive asked myself some questions in search of answers, to no avail.
Are you comfortable with your body? I think I am. When you think about being intimate, what is it that you fear, or dread, or want to avoid the most? i'm interested to see if anyone else has any insight.