Thank you all for your point of views. Some I agree with some I dont. But if I 13 yearold over and over again tells u to F off..tells u her Dad told her u should die,,and she agrees eventually that face got a slap...right or wrong ..call it abuse if u like .I own that. I also no that I was slapped...many teens get a slap. . But most do not spend their lives blameing their parents slap as a reason to use drugs and alcohol..or ..abanden their child ,cheat on the husband,not payntheir bills,flunk out of college or to not hold a job. It becomes a choice to either take responsibility of her own life and future or not,,inspite of her past.... I know for sure I could have done better..I did what I could with the circumstances I had..Judge me if u wish,,,but it is time in my book for our adult children to stop getting a pass because they had confused parents doing the best they knew how....yes possibly poor parenting happened .In spite of that they should take back the control of their lives and take responsibility for their futures.