i hope i suggest something right lets see how it goes...

you dont have to tell the guy about your whole history or anything....but explain to him on the first date you really arnt comfortable with anything touchy feely...and youd like to take it slow and that you hope he understands and will give you the time..and space...you need and deserve...no more needs being said...if he is going to be remotely the right guy for you he should respect that and folllow your wishes...if not than you know you dont want to get with that kind of jerk to being with ...because he probably is a jerk in more areas than one....and saying it on the first date makes it soo much easier too...because then its out of the way and already dealt with....and plus then he knows your not trying to give mixed signals and thats how you are...dont treat YET like its to do with your past but treat it now like its just part of your personality( personality i mean like some people just dont kiss on the first date, or some people just dont touch doornobs after they wash their hands in a public restroom, just something random about you)....and see how it goes from there....good luck and let us know how it goes....