Unfortunately, we can't make a therapist apologize for the way they "handle" us.

No hugs
Not even a handshake
5+ years = no physical contact
Moving target boundaries
I love you
You pay me
I am here for you
Why are you calling/texting/emailing me?
Call me when you need me
I don't do therapy by phone/texting/email
I think you need to increase session frequency ( from 3 to 4 times/week)
My fees are increasing - well...actually they increased last year but..,

However, if a specific "misattunement" occurred and she was wrong, eventually, if I remained calm and coherent, she would fess up and apologize- for that specific incident.