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Old Feb 10, 2015, 04:28 AM
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but I really don't like it when the words "self respect" are used to tell the difference between a person of worth and a person of less worth, such as "that person has no self respect".

The reason is that I find it difficult to respect myself or view myself as having worth, and the fact

I feel I
'should' be ashamed of
that leads me down the route to meta-low-self-esteem - i.e. low self esteem

I took to the internet anonymously to tell a forum about it.

What did I get back? "Why can't you just have more self respect?" Literally the worst thing to say to someone who lacks it, obviously ("You obviously have low self worth, you 'should' be ashamed of yourself").

because everybody else does think there's something wrong with it and I'll be shunned".

See what I mean?
Revisiting the post. I do see a couple of 'should' moments. Also had read 'right','wrong','ashamed.'

Feel those are more cognitive distortions, that contribute to negative thinking. Which certainly contribute to low self esteem.

There are certain things in this universe, that a person may have to do for survival. It's not an absolute.

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Thanks for this!
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