Does your wife know about your need? If so, can she feel betrayed? When I start talking about multiples and some of the stuff they did my wife would get put off and told me to talk about it to my therapist, not wanting to hear a word of it. Her image of me since we first got together is shattered she says- disappointingly. She won't hear of it about what I'm going through inside. I told her I was like this longer then when we met, like 30 years longer.